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3/16/14blog post

9 signs you're raising a spoiled child

America’s kids are being raised in the most prosperous conditions in history. While there are some notable exceptions, most children have access to materialistic benefits unknown to previous generations.

You wouldn’t get that impression from listening to youngsters in my office. Despite unprecedented levels of affluence, many children whine about wanting more, bigger, and better.

Are raising a spoiled child?

  1. Does your child say “thank you” and show appreciation? Entitled kids take things for granted and rarely express gratitude to their parents or others.
  2. Does your child, even your teen, look to you for entertainment? Spoiled kids frequently complain about being bored and look to you to provide distraction and amusement. They act entitled to vacations and special events to give them something to do.
  3. Is your child materialistic? Spoiled kids care about things rather than relationships. They expect the latest iPhone or video game and get upset if you don’t cater to their demands. They focus excessively on appearances, and view shopping at a discount store as beneath them. You can never give a spoiled child enough things to keep them happy, as their expectations only increase with each new toy, trip, or privilege.
  4. Can your child manage a budget? Spoiled kids don’t worry about money because they are accustomed to getting what they want. They have no idea what things cost, and really don’t care since it doesn’t affect them.
  5. Is your child discourteous to others, particularly those he views as beneath him? Pay attention to how your child interacts with waiters, service providers, and sales people. Spoiled kids view other people as there to serve them, and they typically ignore or are rude to others. When service standards are not perfect, they tend to complain about minor issues.
  6. Does your child complete household chores on a regular basis? Every school age child should have some responsibilities around the house because they are members of a family. Older children should have an opportunity to earn money and save for what they want.
  7. Does your child made judgments about others based upon superficial characteristics? Spoiled kids tend to make negative comments about people who they view as below their economic or social status. They comment disparagingly on others’ clothes, weight, or attractiveness.
  8. Does your child show any interest in helping others? Spoiled kids are more focused on what they want rather than how they may help to others.
  9. Is your child manipulative? Spoiled kids are somewhat devious in using people to get what they want. Relationships are of little value other than being a means to an end to get what they want. They are typically deceitful and have trouble engaging in relationships built upon trust and caring.